What are we looking for when we are looking for a relationship?
In Relationships, we often go looking for the following:-
Someone who is Ambitious.
Someone who is Good fun to be around.
Someone who is Good looking.
Someone who has a Good job.
Someone who is tall dark and Handsome or,
Someone who is Gorgeous.
Someone who is Spiritual.
But these aren't the reasons why relationships break up… These are:
They Never Listen.
They are Always Critical.
They are Controlling.
They are Manipulative.
There is a Lack of Trust.
They are Always Judgmental.
They seem to be Angry all the time.
They are Distant and not Engaged.
They are Disconnected.
And the outcome is:
We go looking for success, charm, good looks, status, education, talents, accomplishments, giftedness or service, but then later, we experience the pain and reality of the relationship and their character and then...
We suffer the pain of all our failed relationships.
So What is Love?
In the Bible, in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 it tells us what love is, and it also tells us what love isn't!
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance".
Do you recognise any of these positive, or negative traits in your relationship, does your partner treat you with love, or is it something else, something that isn't love at all, is it manipulative or controlling or coercive or abusive?